Two words I rarely write. That’s because it not how life has ever been for me. But these last few days’ I’ve looked around and started to notice that things feel normal again. There is an ebb and flow in the new house. I mentioned the other day that it’s doesn’t feel real. It’s like I’m on some sort of extended vacation with the hubs and children.
I had a girlfriend call the other day to see how things were going in the new house. “Great, really great!” was my response. She seemed surprised. She asked how me and the hubs were doing, “Wonderful.” I replied. I could hear it in her voice she was waiting for me to give her some long-winded story about my traumatic week or some big fight that we have had. But the truth of the matter is our life is no longer like that.
I never thought I would write these words, but we are starting to move forward and rarely look back. I have forgiven and even started to forget. I put up my “No Drama Here” sign and remind people when they start to come on my lawn.
Therapy for us, for him has been a life saver. When we first started we had to see separate people and convene once a month in a group session. I wanted to kill him! I was angry, sad and very bitter. I thought there was no hope for us. He was a spoiled selfish brat that thought I was over doing it and just wanted me to move on.
With time, years, we have started to work as a team again. I didn’t realize how distant we had become from each other in the last few years. We were married but living separate lives under the same roof. I no longer see any one, but he does. I think it helps him learn how to deal with emotions, life, marriage, a wife….all things he was never taught growing up, but that’s a whole other story…
The fact of the matter is in the last two years he has shown me how much we mean to him. I have watched him endure and come through all the bullshit that came along with an affair, let me tell you, there is a lot of it. Way more than anyone would have ever expected. I have seen him fight for us and stick up for me when I least expected it. I have seen how hard he has worked to fix things and build a new relationship with me. I never thought we would be in a place where I feel like I have 100% of his support but that’s how life is starting to feel and it’s really quite peaceful.